Going through a divorce can be rough on both you and the children. Younger children don't understand what is going on. They simply want to spend as much time with their parents as they can. Not being in the same house any longer complicates things and makes it more difficult for you to enjoy unlimited time with them like you used to. If you are worried about not getting enough parenting time with your little ones, here are a few things you can do to help maximize the time you get with them.
Oftentimes, when people are going through a bitter divorce, they end up trying to win the children over to their side. They want the kids to be with them as much as possible. Manipulation is a terrible thing, especially when doing it to your children. If this is happening to you, make sure you document everything you can. Outline times where your ex wouldn't let you see your children or made you bring them home early. All of these things are crucial when it comes to fighting in court.
Bide your time.
Instead of battling it out with the other party, simply step back and let your lawyer handle it for you. Waiting it out and being patient will go a long way in the end, even though it might seem like an eternity now. Avoid engaging with the other party. You are only adding fuel to the fire by arguing with them. They want to make you react. They want to see your emotions. Don't give them that satisfaction. Just document their behavior as fully as you can.
Even though it might be difficult to remain cordial to the other party when they are the one who wronged you, do it anyway. Don't ever show your emotion in front of the children. Avoid discussing the other party as much as you can. If you have a problem with your ex, it shouldn't be brought to the children's attention. They don't need to be put in the middle of it. Show them that you are mature and rising above the situation.
By following the three tips above, you can make sure you are able to get the parenting time you deserve. Patience and diligence will go a long way in winning your case and coming out with all the time you deserve with your children. For more advice, speak to a family lawyer, like Margit M. Hicks, PA Attorney at Law.Share